You always want what you can't have. The grass is always greener on the other side. You don't know what you've got until it's gone.
Everyone knows these sayings, and are taught them from the very beginning, and yet they are rarely ever taken to heart. They are usually learned the hard way, you don't realize the truth of the matter until after the fact. Always just a little too late do you realize what these saying are trying to say, then you feel stupid because you knew better. Ironic really! So what do you do? Most people make the same mistakes again, it's part of being human. Okay, you're right, you usually want what you can't have. But what if you actually had it? Would you really be happy? Maybe what you think you want, isn't really what you actually need. Things sometimes happen for a reason, even it's not exactly as you had pictured it. The grass is always greener on the other side, no matter what side you're on. Hand in hand with you want what you can't have, because even if you make it to the other side, where you thought the grass would be greener you realize where you originally were was better. Sometimes I should say, I guess this is not always the case but it often is. Then it leads right into you don't know what you have till it's gone, once you make it to the other side of the grass you understand how good you actually had it. Then you want it again, but you know for a fact you can't have it. All connected into a never ending downward spiral, doomed for sure. Can you ever stop the madness? I don't know, I haven't figured that out yet, and it's driving me crazy.
Just the other day, I was talking to a good friend of mine, and he said something I thought to be very interesting. He was telling me about a friend of his who kept saying that she would be happy once she got to college, then she would be happy once this happened, then if that happened. I will be happy when....life doesn't work that way is what he told me. You can't think that you will only be happy when a specific event happens, because that's not always the case. What makes you happy is yourself, how you look at the situation you're in. Your attitude shapes the paths of your life, and how satisfied you are in it, not the events that take place. It's how you handle each situation and trial that life hands you, that is what controls your contentment. So why not, instead of think when you will be happy, just decide that you will be happy now? Make the best of what you have in this very moment in time, and not worry about what will happen because that is not what is the most important at this very second. Live in the now, in the moment, appreciate everything around you including the people involved! There is a slight drawback to this theory in my opinion though. Because if you are not looking a slight bit ahead you might not see a roadblock that would make life a little bit worse, and there might have been a way to avoid it if you were paying attention. Then again playing the movie all the way through is important sometimes, but it isn't always the answer. So I think that you need both to be balanced, enough to enjoy where you are in life but be aware enough of things ahead so you can be prepared. Getting this formula right is hard, and I don't think that I will ever be able to master it! But as long as we're trying that's all that really matters, right?
Maybe by just being aware of both being happy in the moment and looking slightly ahead, can help in finding the cure to the downward spiral of doom. It is inevitable that we can't avoid bad things happening all the time, but there are ways to make the best out of every situation. It's hard to see it most of the time, but all you can do is try. Certain things happen for a reason, so you can learn and do better next time. It's all a part of being human, and it sucks sometimes but I know that it is only to help us become the best that we can possibly be.
No comments:
Post a Comment